Breaking Up Is Hard To Do: How To Get Over a Breakup

Let’s face it – knowing how to get over a breakup can be difficult. Most of have or will go through this, even though it isn’t something any of us would choose.

Breaking up with someone can actually cover a fairly wide range of situations, although it is usually a romantic relationship that ends.  But it can also be a platonic friendship or even a business relationship, though different terms usually apply.

But be aware you may still go through a few of the same emotions and a few of the same reactions, so knowing how to get over a breakup can offer you some valuable pointers to use in your life anytime a relationship lets you down.

10 Tips To Get Over a Breakup

1.     Grieve – but set limits. It is ok to feel awful and horrible, and you need to face those feelings, so give yourself permission to cry, scream, or mope.  But only for a short time. Every day, you should give yourself less and less time to think about “The Breakup” and more and more time applying other tips here to get over a breakup in a healthy way.

2.     Time. How long will depend on many variables, including your personality. There is no set answer but your goal should be to move further away from the negative and closer to complete healing each day.

3.     Friends. Reach out to your friends for support in the beginning. Don’t isolate yourself with your feelings. Let them know you are hurting and may not be your usual self for a while, but that you need them. Also let them know in a nice way when you are not ready for them to “help” with dating or other pushes.

4.     Socialize. It might be hard to think about this, but doing something as simple as meeting a friend for coffee, or going to the library to find a good book gets you out in the world and back in the flow of everyday life.

5.     Write your feelings down. Create a journal specifically to write about the relationship, the breakup and how you feel about both. Pour it all out – and then if you find it therapeutic and symbolic, shred it. This is not something you are doing to keep and reflect on, it is to help you heal and move on, so don’t keep this on your bookshelf. It can also be healing to end the journal with positive thoughts about you, where your life is heading, and new goals for your life.

6.     Rebounds to avoid – relationships. It can be tempting to jump right into a new relationship to avoid the painful feelings of the old one not working out. But you need time to feel and heal. Then you’ll be in a much better place for something new that can have a great chance for a healthy start!

7.     Rebounds to be aware of – feelings.  Rebounds can come in many forms, and feelings are one. You may think you are fine those first few days, then you hear a song and BAM! A flood of emotion washes over and you feel terrible. Let the cycle happen; people are rarely over a breakup without some sad feelings or regrets – or anger.

8.     Find time for hobbies and recreation. Devoting time to emotionally satisfying things can help you heal. Do things you enjoy, or try something new!

9.     Work is not the answer. Too many people try to drown emotions by channeling their energy into long work hours. The problems with this choice are numerous; you create more stress, you don’t deal with things in a timely manner causing you to actually need more time for healing, and you also set yourself up for unrealistic expectations from those you work with that you will continue the frantic pace. It may also backfire on you if your increased work is not top quality stuff.

10.   Be healthy!  Perhaps one of the best things you can do to get over a breakup or indeed any emotionally challenging time is to put your own health at the forefront. Eat regular, healthy meals of fresh whole foods. Drink plenty of water and avoid binges on alcohol, caffeine, sugars and processed foods. Working out helps you burn off stress and anxiety and release feel good chemicals in your brain to combat depression. And let’s face facts… a month after the breakup, would you rather look and feel great, or have gained 10 pounds from all the self-pity cupcake eating?

If you find that you simply can’t move on, the breakup consumes your thoughts and feelings and keeps you from living a normal life, it is time to seek professional help. And that is totally OK! Someone with the right training and experience can help you see your situation from unbiased angles, give you tools and counseling to help you move on – so that you get over a breakup in a healthy way.

Mighty Vitey B12! An overview of this important vitamin.

Many of the eight vitamins that start with “B” are impressive, and B12 is certainly one of these.  There is so much to say about it that any single article would be lengthy, so let’s focus on what it does for your body, signs you are deficient and sources of B12 in foods you eat.

What Can Vitamin B12 Do For Me?

VitaminB12 is water-soluble (meaning it does not require a fat source to be absorbed) that is most often thought of in red blood cell production.

It is essential to normal nervous system and brain functions, and is essential for proper cell DNA synthesis.

B12 is also a chief component in metabolism functions including the synthesis of fatty acids and energy production.

B12 is frequently an ingredient in energy drinks and items like immunity boosters with high vitamin C contents.

Some suggestion comes that it can aid in weight loss, because of the role in metabolizing fats, proteins and other nutrients, but the science on this is sketchy.

There is new evidence that pregnant women need folic acid and B12 to have healthy pregnancies and boost protection against preventable birth defects (see your doctor if you are pregnant for guidance – but remember that the first portion of pregnancy before you even know is often when you need these nutrients in place.)

Additionally, high vitamin B12 levels have some exciting possibilities in protecting against brain atrophy in dementia and Alzheimer’s patients, and providing extra protection for brain functions as you enter senior years in general.

Vitamin B12 can also be used to help your body naturally suppress allergies.

B12 is an essential vitamin that you need to have from external sources – your body is not capable of making it.

What Are Signs of B12 Deficiency?

Severe deficiency can potentially cause permanent damage to your brain and nervous system.

Even when your levels are only slightly lower than they should be, you can have many symptoms including:

• Fatigue

• Depression

• Poor Memory

• Irritability

• Poor Concentration

• Pale Skin

• Sort Tongue

• Easy Bruising

Deficiency can start to cause problems quickly, and in infants and children can result in irreversible problems very fast.  Babies born to vegetarian mothers need to have careful monitoring of their B12 levels to check for deficiency.

B12 deficiency can be caused by reasons other than inadequate intake. If something impacts the absorption, it also leads to deficiency even if you think you are getting enough.  These conditions can include:

• Pernicious anemia.  A condition involving the lack of a protein called intrinsic factor – a protein produced in the stomach and is needed for vitamin B12 absorption.

• Atrophic gastritis. Thinning of the stomach lining. This impacts up to 30% of people who are 50 and older.

• Small intestine conditions. Crohn’s disease, Celiac disease, parasites or bacterial growth.

• Surgery.  Any type where portions of the stomach and/or small intestine is removed.

• Excessive alcohol consumption.

• Autoimmune disorders. Lupus or Graves disease are examples.

• Using acid reducing drugs for a long time.

Sources of B12

Vitamin B12 is not something your body is capable of making. You can take it in supplement form, and there are also patches, sprays and injections… and the good old-fashioned idea of eating it from real food!

Food sources of B12 include:

• Liver

• Raw oysters

• Cooked Alaskan king crab

• Beef

• Chicken

• Seafood of most types

• Dairy including cheese and milk

• Eggs

Liver is one of the highest sources from foods, because B12 is stored in liver for humans and animals.  B12 is found in food sources from animals including dairy that vegetarians might include in their diets, but Vegans must be especially careful to get adequate and legitimate sources of B12 (talk to your doctor.)

B12 is interesting in that even at extremely high doses over long periods of time, there have been no negative side effects reported. You should still use caution with any supplement, because they can still interact with medications, other supplements, or conditions you have.

But whatever you do, invite B12 to be part of your daily life.  It’s a vitamin you definitely need fighting for you in your corner!

Visit our website at http://andsworld.com

All Natural Detox Solutions

I’m So Disappointed… You’ve Cheated On Me Signed, Your Weekend Diet

Ah, the weekend.  Two glorious days (possibly a few hours more if you begin weekend observance on Friday afternoon!) where you are free to be the relaxed version of you. 

That is great when it means relaxing and enjoying life with time spent among friends and family, fun hikes, family walks, a long bike ride.  Not so great?  When it also relaxes your commitment to healthy eating!

We’ve all been there.  We think, “what the heck?  Weekend!” and proceed to eat several days worth of less-than-healthy to downright junk.  Then comes the guilt, and probably the sluggish Ick Factor feeling too.  Stop the madness!

Why are weekends such a temptation?  There are a number of reasons, some of the biggest include:

·      Lack of Structure: Weekends are generally less structured and change from one weekend to the next, often with loosely planned events or one-time things.

·      More Entertaining: backyard barbeques, eating out at restaurants, date nights, family gatherings, kids birthday parties (and cake)… so many things include food.

·      Mentality: We think of weekends as being fun and relaxing, and too often, we associate that with freedom to eat anything that makes us feel fun and relaxed… but we have the wrong foods on that list!

So what can you do to fight this situation?  How do you reclaim your healthy eating on the weekends? 

I have some ideas (you knew that I would!)

·      Remember that “Healthy Eating” is not a punishment!  There are so many great foods that are delicious and healthy… why would anyone think that rosemary grilled chicken breast with some grilled onions, red peppers and zucchini served over ½ cup of whole wheat couscous is a horrible fate?

Not only is it not a punishment, you will feel so fulfilled eating healthy, balanced and satisfying foods and will probably have a sunnier, more energetic outlook to enjoy your weekend!

·      Have a Weekend Recipes File of healthy menu ideas:

·      Things that are a little more special, maybe take a little more prep and shopping time than you have during the week. 

·      Include new, never tried but sound great recipes and be adventurous.

·      Include old favorites, and things that incorporate something social like grilling during the warmer months or comforting like a crock-pot during the chilly months.

·      Just go to the Farmer’s Market or local organic store (like a Whole Foods if you have one or something similar, or just the organic meat and produce section of your own store) and let the freshest, most beautiful ingredients inspire you!

·      Have some Weekend Food Rules you follow, whatever is right for you:

a.     Make them specific enough to really guide you and become habit.

b.     Allow yourself one blow it all treat once a week so you don’t feel deprived (things in moderation are usually not evil!) and weekends can make an excellent time for that treat (that ONE treat!)

c.      For dining out, know in advance the type of places that serve more healthy items, or how to order from any menu and get a better balance – salad dressings on the side, steamed veggies instead of fries, etc.

·      Don’t skip meals!  You have to treat your body right, and eating regular meals keeps your blood sugar stable and your metabolism firing!  Weekends with their odd schedules can sometimes leave you too hungry and making poor choices.

·      Exercise!  It will help you feel great, and if you choose to have your once a week treat on the weekends, you can know you are still following all your other healthy habits. 

·      Plan for special events.  If you know you’ll be eating things not on your healthy plan (gasp, it does happen) then plan for it with some SUPER healthy meals in between or all week long to create a little more balance.  It isn’t ideal to do trade offs regularly, but there are actually people who are very strict six days a week and pick the seventh to just eat whatever crosses their path and really believe it helps them.  Not everyone has the willpower though – one day of “whatever” eating becomes two, then three… then trouble!

Relax, enjoy your weekend, and embrace the beautiful, healthy foods that also wear the labels of scrumptious and fun!

Click here to see our website